Clinical

As a clinician, sexologist, and practitioner, I think it is important to have a good match between client and provider.

While there are many great providers, not every provider is great for every client.

I always recommend that clients think about what they want to get out of the work. Knowing a provider’s perspective, approach, and clinical lens will determine if the match is right for you.

As a provider, I strive to ensure that everyone in my office feels seen for the unique being they are – with acceptance and respect.

Often, exploration in the work can feel intimidating and overwhelming; sometimes it feels energizing and exciting.

Regardless of how the work is unfolding, I offer directness and clarity (you will never have to guess what I am thinking); compassion and empathy (once you learn to trust me, you will find that I hold your story as vitally as I hold my own); and, when appropriate – humor (because let’s face it – sometimes life is crazy and you have to accept the absurdity of it!)

I am always open and willing to hear your perspectives, am deeply curious of your life and how you understand it.

I am very clear that success is what you define it as – not me.
So, I invite you to share your goals with me and see if we can find the path to achieving them!

FAQs

How should I reach you?

If you are a new contact, please use the form on my Contact Page.  It is efficient and I usually respond in 24-48 hours.

If you are an established client, feel free to email or call me for a response in 24-48 hours.

How should I pick a therapist?

Picking a therapist is kind of like dating. You have to see if there is something basic that interests you about the therapist. Did the therapist use language you liked? Was the therapist referred to you? Do you like the therapist’s approach? 

Then, see if the therapist has an opening — which can be challenging. Ask for an initial conversation/consultation. After a few sessions, reevaluate to see if it is the best fit for you. If it is, great! If it isn’t, don’t be afraid to let the therapist know if you need something different. Perhaps the therapist can do that for you. If not, go find a different therapist!

The right fit is key to achieving your goals!

How do I know what type of therapy I should have?

Most therapists will use a variety of different approaches. There are some clinical theories that work best for different challenges.  Ask your therapist what their approach/es are and how they apply to your goals.

Also, consider how you interact best:

  • Are you more creative? Perhaps an art or expression therapist might be interesting.

  • Are you more about talking through concerns? CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) might be your primary approach.

  • Are you looking to focus more on emotional regulation? Find a therapist that can explore DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) with you.

Issues with sex, intimacy, physical functioning do well with a sex therapist. But, don’t be limited… be open and talk to your therapist about what might broaden your horizons.

What if I don't have insurance coverage or the therapist doesn't take my insurance?

If you don’t have insurance, you will have to pay “out of pocket”, or what is called “fee for service”.  If you have insurance, but the therapist does not take your insurance, you should find out if you have out of network benefits.

To do this, read your plan coverage or call the number on the back of your insurance card. You will probably have a deductible (an amount you have to pay before benefits will cover) and/or a copay (the amount you have to pay per session).

In most cases when you have out of network benefits, you will pay the therapist their full requested fee and they will supply you with a “superbill”. A superbill is a receipt that has all of the codes that you can submit to your insurance for reimbursement. I offer superbills quarterly.

“I will be forever grateful I found Elliott when searching for a couples therapist.
I’ve been to my fair share of therapy and he was the first counselor to truly understand us (the first step to a solution). He immediately grasped a complex situation, seeing right through a cheery façade to the heart of our family issues. And, he did it within the first two or three sessions! Elliott wasn’t fooled when what my partner or I said wasn’t what we were feeling. But, he called out truths with such kindness and compassion that it was possible to actually hear what he was telling us. I felt like I left every session with new insights and techniques. He never took sides, just reframed things in a way that was fair and honest and amazingly on point. He gave me the insight (and just the right encouragement) I needed to see what was right in front of me and get on track.”


“Kate”