Public Speaking

One of my favorite things to do is to meet and talk with groups!

I am often scheduled to talk at conferences, meetings, team events, and private functions. Having a dynamic speaker can make or break an event. I do not offer canned talks or programs. I want to know what your goals are, and what would inspire your audience, and then craft an insightful and meaningful experience.


Knowing that I have been able to connect to an audience feels like a gift – for everyone.


Watch: The Five Journeys Podcast

Reignite Intimacy and Sex Through Curiosity
with Dr. Elliott Kronenfeld.


On this episode, I joined Drs. Wendie and Ed on the Five Journeys Podcast to talk about Reigniting Intimacy and Sex.

Click here to learn more about the topics discussed on this episode, including the nature of infatuation, sex, the power of communication and curiosity, and what it can take to recover from infidelity.

Click to Read: A Special Thanks From the Portland Humanists Society

Dear Elliott,


On behalf of the Humanists of Greater Portland, let me try to find adequate words to thank you for that insightful, provocative, and compassionate presentation on intimacy.  I don’t know if others were moved nearly to tears as they considered their own relationships in light of what you were saying, but I certainly was.  Your concepts of intention and curiosity reminded me of what the minister of a progressive church told my husband and me as we were preparing to marry: you choose to be married (or not) every single day.  In light of that concept, so many of your points came back to trust, including your definition of intimacy — the teeter-totter of safety vs. vulnerability.  Your guidelines on when and how to offer help, the consideration of the phases a relationship goes through, the options for conflict and problems with language, and more, just kept offering up intriguing ideas.


My guess is that there was a new thought or perspective for everyone. I was a little worried that we wouldn’t get to hear your best ideas if you opened the discussion too early, but you have your ducks in a row. You present things concisely so you can get a lot in and balance the discussion.  I’m sure you could tell how fully engaged the group was.  We very much appreciate your taking your own time to make this presentation and share your expertise.


We are in your debt.




Joyce Lackie

Program Committee,
Humanists of Greater Portland


Public Speaking

Below is a listing of some of the talks I have given over the years. This list is not comprehensive, and I am open to exploring other ways that I can support your efforts. If you are interested in having me come to talk to your group, please get in touch with me by submitting a detailed request.

I look forward to hearing from you!

Perspective: Family Pride

Gay Dads Talk Pride in 2021

Hear from gay fathers across the world how they celebrate Pride with their kids, and what Pride means to children born into gay-headed families.


Qualitative Sexological Research Methods

California Institute of Integral Studies

May 2021

Life Begins at Deception: The Underground World of Infertility

Fertility Within Reach, Inc.

April 2021

Love and Intimacy: The Connections and Misconceptions

Portland Humanists Society. Portland, OR

April 2021

Understanding Implicit Racial and LGBTQ Bias

MA Council on Family Mediation, Boston, MA

December 2020

Men’s Sexual Awareness: Challenges During Infertility

Fertility Within Reach

June 2020

Sex in the Dark

Wentworth Institute of Technology

June 2020

Gay Men: A Rich History and A Few Misconceptions

NASWMA Symposium. Framingham, MA

May 2020

Unlikely Partners: Divorce Attorney and Couples' Therapist

NASWMA Symposium. Framingham, MA

April 2020

Building the relationship you want: Lessons from a sex therapist

Newton Inspires. Newton MA

November 2019

A Mindful Look at Surrogacy: Psychological and Ethical Aspects

Men Having Babies. Florida

June 2019

Sex and the Minivan

AASECT. Philadelphia, PA

June 2019

A Mindful Look at Surrogacy: Psychological and Ethical Aspects

Men Having Babies Midwest. Chicago, IL

April 2019

Advice for Prospective Single Fathers

Men Having Babies Midwest. Chicago, IL

April 2019

A Mindful Look at Surrogacy: Psychological and Ethical Aspects

Men Having Babies. New York, NY

November 2018

Creating Connections: Cultivating Intimacy While Growing Your Family

Resolve New England

November 2018

Men and Infertility: Masculinity and Taboo

AASECT. Denver, CO

June 2018

Sex, Intimacy and Bodies: Creating Connections and Discovering Possibility

NASWMA Symposium

April 2018

Surviving Miscarriage

NASWMA Symposium

April 2018

Intimate Communication After Burn Injury

American Burn Association. Chicago, IL

April 2018

Social and Family Issues in Surrogacy

Men Having Babies. San Francisco, CA

January 2018

Understanding Psychological Concerns in Surrogacy

Men Having Babies. New York, NY

November 2017

Maintaining Intimacy and Connection during Infertility

Resolve New England

November 2017

Surviving Miscarriage: Living Through Devastation

AASECT. Las Vegas, NV

June 2017

Surrogacy from Different Perspectives

Resolve New England

November 2016

Creating the Language of Intimacy

Phoenix World Burn Congress

October 2016

Extraordinary Sex Therapy: Innovative Approaches, Practical Applications


November 2015

Couples with Intention: Leading group therapy with intact couples

International Association of Social Work with Groups (IASWG)

March 2015

Gay Men: Coming Out of Straight Marriages

Lifespan Hospitals Social Worker Inservice

November 2014

Coming Out of A Straight Marriage

NASWMA Symposium

April 2014

Gestational Surrogacy: When Adoption Isn't Your Option

NASWMA Symposium

April 2014

Look Who's Coming Out Now

Lifespan Hospitals Social Worker Inservice

October 2013

Gay Parenting

Massachusetts General Hospital

May 2012

Talking about Families!

Tufts University

March 2012

Creating Families

Hispanic/Black Gay Coalition, Panelist

November 2011

Welcome to the Gayby Boom

Lifespan Hospitals Social Worker Inservice

October 2011

International Surrogacy

Family Equality Council/Family, Florida

July 2011

Understanding Gestational Surrogacy

Offered in New York, Texas, Georgia

Understanding International Gestational Surrogacy

Offered in Belgium, France, Ireland, Norway, Spain, Sweden, Switzerland, UK