How do we open our minds and our hearts to willingly let someone new into our romantic lives? How do we know if the person we choose is actually genuine, loving, and respectful? How can we assure ourselves that we won’t get hurt?
Your Relationship Storyline
Every relationship has a unique storyline. Like the greatest romances of our day, there is an arc from the first meeting to dramatic denouement. We grow thinking that adult relationships begin with an air of mystery and intrigue, survive through milestones and hardships before drifting into the happily ever after – until they don’t.
Praising Children: To Praise or Not to Praise
We live in a culture where we are strongly encouraged to praise our children for every little thing. How realistic do you think this is? If all that comes out of our mouth is “great job” even though in your heart we might be thinking, “Really?!!!” Praising sounds like a broken record. I have noticed that it doesn’t even carry the same weight as it used to.
Practicing Presence: What We Can Learn From the Love of Dogs
My dog is in training to be a therapy dog. Marcel is a natural- he’s gentle, sweet, and at 11lbs, he was bred to be a lap dog. Though I’ve only brought him to the office with me for a few weeks now, clients immediately notice when he isn’t there and ask with notable disappointment, “Where’s Marcel?” I don’t take it personally, rather, I understand.
How Change Really Happens!: Systems, Processes and Steps
People come to see me to create change in their lives, their relationships or their career. Usually after the first session, I have heard them talk about their frustration and failed attempts to create the change they long for. Why? Why can’t some folks create the change that just seems to be a logic process? They try and try and try.
What are you fighting for?: Understanding Relationship Conflict and How to Address it
I lead a group for couples on how to bring intention into their relationship. This is a fascinating group and
I learn so much from sitting with these couples as we tackle the many inputs into relationships that often
trip us up. One recent topic was conflict. How do we have manage conflict in our relationship with
intention? Does it matter if the conflict is between both partners or experienced by one partner from an
outside source? As you can imagine, this was a lively discussion!